Already copying Grandad's crossword habit! |
I envy people who have lived in the same house or town their whole lives, but at the same time I'm glad I haven't. It's not like I haven't had stability. I don't remember my two years in Germany, the eight years I spent in Oxfordshire seemed a long time to a 10 year old and I have lived in Bovey Tracey for the last 16 years. We moved here in 1996 so I class myself as Devonian. If ever asked where I'm from, it's easier to just say "Devon" than to say "Born in Germany, Dad is from Cheshire, Mum is from Devon but grew up in Buckinghamshire, I grew up in Oxfordshire before moving to Devon." My family history interests me too, and the first place I always look is to my Father's side because that is the one that bears the family name, of course.
Family at Nanna and Grandad's 60th Wedding Anniversary |
My Grandfather has always had words of advice, always shared his opinion if he thought it necessary and while he may repeat himself from time to time, his approval has always mattered to me. I've always wanted to make him proud of me, possibly more so than my own father. He is the most kind hearted, gentlemanly and humble person I know, and I aspire to be like that and the fact that their marriage has lasted 60 years (and counting) is something I aspire to with Jess. Grandad has always shown trust in me and that kind of faith is more powerful than people give it credit. I'm sure I'm not the only one, I'm sure it's not exclusive but I've mentioned in previous blogs that the one thing in life that really gets me down and upsets me is being spoken to like an idiot. Grandad has NEVER done that. He may not have always agreed with what I have said or done, but has never made me feel like an idiot for it.
My Grandad |
Having a family is something that I believe I couldn't do unless I was with the perfect woman to have my children. There is no one more perfect for me than Jess. There are still no words that can adequately describe the sheer joy that ran through my body when she accepted my proposal of marriage. Having a family was the furthest thing from our minds at that time. I lived in England, Jess lived in Australia... How could it work?! Well, it has worked out better than we could have hoped so far, and the final step towards being able to achieve this goal is my visa coming through. The Australian Immigration department have all they need from me, now it's a waiting game. Potentially a nine month wait...
Now that Jess is back in Australia, I am reflecting on a lot of the things we have done together and I am so happy that my grandparents got to meet her on two separate occasions. They happened to be visiting Devon in 2010 around the time my niece (their first Great-Grandchild) was born, which was also when Jess first came to the UK. They also invited Jess to their 60th Wedding Anniversary in July this year and the fact they approve of her and us means more to me than anyone else's approval. Nothing would make me happier than to have them at our wedding but they have already said that there is no way that they could make the journey to Australia for it. I really hope it can happen somehow.
My Nanna |
Three Generations of Carter's on Concorde at Manchester December 2004 |
Grandad has a passion for Flight Simulator which he gradually passed on to me, and through this I decided I wanted to do it for real and I wanted to become a pilot. Part of me wishes I had gone on and finished my flying licences but I can't imagine how my life would have been without Jess, and I don't want to. I still hold the desire to be a pilot one day, however there are a few more pressing priorities at this stage in our life!
Grandad and I on the Flight Deck of Concorde G-BOAC at Manchester (2009) |
My Grandparents and father came to watch me play cricket. This day I took 6-39, my first 5 wicket haul. (2008) |
Some of the names that run in my family have appeared more than once, and I hope that we can bear that in mind when we choose names for our kids. There are some truly awful names out there, for example one of Jermaine Jackson's children is called "Jermajesty"... What the hell is that?! Jermaine Jnr I could understand, but the kid is not royalty! I want something more traditional but still in keeping with the family name, something that fits the name "Carter". Perhaps that is the best tribute that I can give to my Grandparents, and the promise that I will not be the last Carter on our branch. As Grandchildren, it's rare to ever do anything than receive. The day I become a Father is the day I feel I have given something back to my Grandparents, and kept a promise. It seems that no matter how old we are, that juvenile desire to make someone proud of us never really leaves.